Baby Mama, Baby Papa Saga



Just few weeks back, on a blog (Linda Ikeji’s Blog aka LIB - http://lindaikeji.blogspot.com/2015/03/how-may-d-assaulted-me-for-years-baby.html?m=1) reported that a Debola girl who is said to be singer MayD’s ex-girlfriend and baby mama wrote to her. According to linda, Debola wrote her saying she wants to clean about her relationship with MayD. She Debola said she is voicing her experience out in the stand against domestic violence.

Debola said they (herself and MayD) were so in love. They even moved in together but singer MayD was broke then. She also stated how she once gave him her Babcock University school fees for studio time. But through the eight years they spent together, he was abusing her physically. To cut the long story short, she had their child and he kept abusing her and one day she finally decided to leave him with their son. Then she ended it by saying “things we do for love, right?”

My people like always I have an opinion, let me share a few of my thoughts about this with you. First, how do you stick with an abuser for 8 years? Young girl, pretty, great future in front of you. That I really don’t understand. Not to talk of giving out your school fees, mmmm!!!No, not right we the 2015 ladies don’t stick with abusers for love. No way.

Second, How do you allow yourself get pregnant for someone you are not married to? Worse an abusive boyfriend whom you refused to leave? I was brought up in a good Christian family and normally I wouldn’t rout for abortion but this is one of the times I would say “go for it”. For life you are forever bound to this abusive person because you have his child. That’s my definition of hell.

Third, sincerely I don’t know how long it’s been since their break up but why bring it up now? Apart from the obvious claim of “fighting against domestic violence” which I totally respect and as a bit of a feminist that I am, I totally stand against it too but think again what does she wish to benefit from this? Or does she wish to tell me that she doesn’t know that this would negatively impart his already feeble career.

Debola dear, I have never being in an abusive relation and pray I never will (I will soooo walk out as fast as I walked in), so I would never understand your experience and am sorry you went through that and thank God you came out of this alive but see babe to babe, you went about this the wrong way. If I were you eh, I would blackmail his life with publishing this story and syphon his remaining money. Open up a business, work hard and stay sane and healthy for myself and my son. All the same your braveness is commendable but still take care of yourself.

G please share your view? Have you ever stayed/staying in an abusive relationship? If yes why? What else have you done for “Love”? Confession time *wink*

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