Wife And Husband Material




Few days ago, a friend asked the guys in a group chat what makes a wife material to them. For the benefit of those reading this article who are in the dark about what a wife or husband material means, let me explain. A wife “material” is the characteristics of a lady that makes her a marriageable person or fit for marriage. Same thing goes for a man and the term husband “material”.

So the men in the group chat started listing their criteria one after the other. One even mentioned about 10 or more characteristics. Nothing wrong with knowing what you want or desire from your future spouse. No need mentioning all but I’ll mention a few (must know how to cook, clean, humble, intelligent, quiet, hardworking, respect her man, you know the rest).

I was and is still of the opinion,  that the wife material mantra is being over flogged. I mean everywhere you go, someone is asking about wife material. There is less emphasis on husband material and I wonder why. In fact am of the opinion that now the situation should be reversed, there should be more questions on what makes a husband material because young men these days have no ideas of what it means to be a husband and a father. They think it is only about proposing to "bae"  (why not that is what she wants), marry her (her life dream since childhood), provide financial support (for those who still care to for some “am making investments, she should spend hers, she’s working”) and donate sperm for child bearing (why not? At least she will have someone else to focus on).

I think someone should launch an academy for young boys and girls where integrity, discipline, hard work and satisfaction of labour is taught. Not forgetting social etiquette and how to treat, value and respect the opposite sex. Part of their scheme will cover characteristics of a good husband or wife. Mould them to be the best man or woman they can be.

So yes wife material is over rated in my opinion. Men should stop thinking they are invisible in the topic of marriage. They should be made to know their role and impact of their position as “head of the home” (mind you, I acknowledged men as “head of the family”) makes in the home especially to their kids. Enough of the myth that “for a marriage to work, it lays solely on the woman”.

I know you are itching to say something. What is your opinion? I cannot wait to hear it. Please share.

Comments

  1. Amyzee21 April 2015 at 09:31

    I hate that there is too much emphasis on having wife material! Men, just like you watch out for a wife material, women also have a list of wants and needs that qualifies a man to be husband material.. It will do you good to know that and groom urself

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