“You Can’t Spank My Child”


“You are not allowed to spank my child, not you her aunt or even her teachers” “I am the only one allowed to spank my Child”. Those were the words my friend Kate, said her sister told her.

In case you don’t understand, let me break it down for you. My friend Kate went to her sister’s house. Her very beautiful nieces like every other 5 and 7 years old jump around, spill and scatter things but unlike every other 5, 7year old they don’t get spanked (a new generation word for better beating that our mothers would have given to us in those days, hehehe). 

One day, the older niece did something silly which is not out of the ordinary for a child her age but kate was offended because she had told her over and go again not to do it. So like a normal thing she spanked the child and told her not to do it again for the fourth time. As expected, the child began to wail and of course her sister came out. “What is it?” “Did she fall.” “You what? Spanked her? For doing what?” “don’t you ever spank my child” “You are not allowed to spank my child, not you her aunt or even her teachers” “I am the only one allowed to spank my Child”. So Kate’s sister’s theory apparently is that when her child does something wrong, you must wait till she (the mum) comes back and you complain to her, then she will decide as the person with the autonomous authority to spank the child. 
So I pondered on this a while, What are you teaching the child? That she is too special to be corrected by anyone else except her mum? That she can do whatever she wants especially since no one around will reprimand her except you and glory be to God you’re not here and will never know and she would grow old doing it. Most especially, She can’t be disciplined enough to follow and obey rules because they are not mum’s rules. Mmmm!!!

Well my Kids must be spanked (notice I didn’t say beat, not kill o) by her teacher and her aunty, uncle, grandparents, anyone that has their interest at heart because I will not be there all the time, am not a supper women. As a mother can only correct the one I am opportuned to see or perceive and I therefore need these wonderful people in my Child’s life to help train them with God and myself.

That’s my kids (when I do eventually), what about yours?

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