Singles Meeting - Part Two



A continuation from Saturday’s singles programme, but not to worry, no x-rated gist here. (before you think it is only x-rated gist I heard there, lol). Well, in the single’s meeting apart from the x-rated gist, other things were discussed. 

A lady was concerned about the myth that when a lady is so successful and lives it, men will run away and not approach her for marriage, well after much talk it was agreed that a single woman after working so hard should ensure that she enjoys the journey through singlehood however she likes (well since you do not know when the husband is arriving). In fact, the pastor told us how a lady bought a land and people said “no o, please don’t build house, men will run away” but she went ahead and it was on the new site she met the widower who built his house opposite hers and before her house was done, they were married. Plus if a man is too intimidated to walk up to a successful lady and cultivate a friendship, he has low self-esteem and probably not worth you. (but ladies own it, enjoy it but don’t wear it on your attitude. Humility and love is a Christian vitue). 

A guy stood up to talk about ladies who wants already made and seeing the potential in a man, and the lady pastor said struggling with a man and seeing potential is great but everything has time. She believes you do all that in your early, middle twenties (both of you) like she did with her husband but if she were not married at her now early forties, she wouldn’t now marry a man who is still struggling and I agree. If you are struggling at late 30s, 40s, 50s please when will you finally make it, at 70? Nah fam not ideal. (this is not undermining that people’s situation and family challenges differ but not for she neither is it for me). 

Also be careful not to marry a selfish, stingy, proud, just generally a self-indulgent person or if you do, learn to deal with it. These personality traits don’t disappear just because they married you. Most of them are inbuilt and took them all their lives before you meet them to master, they are not changing any time soon, only God does wonderful things like that. Look up to him and pray. (In my sarcastic tone). 

Finally, there is a good, acceptable and perfect will of God, so there is a lady or man that is God’s perfect will for you. But there is also the good one, the acceptable one and of course the one he does not even associate with you, hence God’s grace and gift of “power of choice to choose”. Choose wisely. 

Being single is not a disease, it's a phase of life, enjoy it. Hopefully someone learnt something. 



Comments

  1. Unknown11 September 2015 at 04:06

    wow, nice one, Miss Eby. Relationships take time to cultivate.

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