Single's Meeting - Part One




Disclaimer: This article is rated 18, and not suitable for readers younger than 18 or single (like am married, lol). But seriously, reader’s discretion is advised. It contains lots of x-rated words. Only read if you understand coded words *wink*.

So last weekend I went to a single’s church program sponsored by a church. It was

fun and enlightening at the same time with lots of discussions on s*x. Don’t get me wrong, of course I have being to a lot of single’s seminars but not in a church where the pastor’s hot wife is put on the spot to talk about s*x toys, s*xting, bl*w jobs and a*al s*x.

Without boring you too much with a long epistle, emphasis was on s*x as lots of young, single Christians struggle with s*xual tensions and abstinence.  As expected a lot of advice and options were proffered by the lady pastor and co on ways to reduce s*xual tensions like exercising, over working yourself at work and church so you get home tired and have no time to remember or inert s*xual feelings (which is a natural, adult feeling by the way). Also the pastor emphasised that marriage is not a total cure for s*xual desires because one spouse may need to travel or very busy and not be there physically or emotionally for s*x. 

Now things got more interesting when a single sister asked if using s*x toys or s*xting is a sin. (well so as to avoid physical s*xual contact aka Fornication). That was immediately shunned and said not to awaken any sort of s*xual feeling till you are married and that just the thought and nursing of it is a sin. 

Personally, I always thought that as married couple, almost anything as long as it is mutually agreed upon and is mutually enjoyable is allowed and permissible. Last weekend I was proven wrong. I understood from the discussions from the pastors, that it may not be a sin but not morally advisable like using s*x toy or bringing in a third party. For instance, using s*x toy could get addictive and you may not need your partner anymore.  A*al is wrong, unhealthy and is medical and morally wrong.  

So long story short, anything that you do that gives s*xual gratification without physical commitment from your spouse is a sin or just plain wrong/not acceptable for a Christian marriage and no Bj is not a sin. 

hopefully someone has better understanding *rolls eyes*

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