The Buharis, Female Gender And The Hypocrisy of Nigerians

I woke up this morning with the radio loud in my ears, "she belongs to my kitchen, the living room and the other room" and am like "ohhhh am tired of this, please can we move on to something else please?". This is becoming annoying as there are heavier matters like the economy. 

Although I can't deny there are positives to the Buharis Saga. Suddenly my people (Nigerian Men and Africans) realised that women are not just sexual objects and their maids. It took President Buhari for that to sink in, wow that's impressive. It is the HYPOCRISY that beats me. Same male gender who says "this is Nigeria, this is Africa and not the western world, my wife must cook alakat for me, my wife must not work, she will stay at home, she should look for a handwork, open shop, go and teacher, etcetera" (so that she can be at their berk and call). Same ones. Please note no disrespect to the women concerned with the above chosen field of life, but if you are a male and you have ever said/thought or still think those words, subjected your wife to such when all she really wanted was to have a professional career in her field of study and you have the audacity to critise president Buhari, you are very hypocritical. If as a man you think women do not have higher callings and God given purpose in life just as yourself, sorry you are same as Buhari. The chauvinistic nature of Nigerian Men and Africans as a whole cannot be overemphasized. 

Then there is the argument that he disrespected the female gender (especially by women), only you drew that conclusion because he said "my wife...... " not every female/woman. As a matter of fact, I am impressed he permitted her to go about her first lady roles. Remember his campaign when he said there was no office as the office of the first Lady? Yes he did but here she is. He is right by his Hausa/Muslim tradition. The hard core Hausa Muslims, do their wives even come out of their houses not to talk of speaking? Can you even see their faces? I personally think that she is Hausa Muslim and should have thought about it better before coming out to make her speech knowing/predicting her husband's reaction to that behavior. And be truthful even as a Christian man, if your wife did same thing, would you tolerate it? Just knowing that she told her family about your family matter, you would frown, now imagine that she did that on National TV in front of your opposition (PDP), that is murder. She just feed her husband to the wolves and trust PDP to take advantage of that in next election. Inhouse she can argue it out with him and make her point (by the way, her opinion is very correct and on point) but saying it out in the open was wrong of her. I'll be surprised if we hear from her in the near future. 

Another says "he said it in Germany (in front of white people and international TV) so what? When did Nigerians start to care how "white" people perceive them. Plus I give him kudos for atleast courage. Courage to stand his ground on his belief and culture in front of the "white" people. If he could apply such courage, we would be out of this economic mess. 

My last opinion about this is, if a First Lady cannot be articulate, classy, politically sound and speak with decorum like Michelle Obama, then she should really not bother speaking. That's how it starts, if Aisha Buhari is allowed to continue in this line, she would turn out same as Patience Jonathan. Classless, toutish behavior, insulting everyone and hence disgracing Nigeria further in the name of politics. By the way I think she is a smart woman and should go ahead to suggest healthy economic policies and it's implementation in the "other room". 

Can everyone close to Buhari help tell him to now sack all his advisers and members of his economic team (if he has one) and let us nominate brilliant minds, young entrepreneurs who can turn around this dying economy in months. 

Go ahead, am itching to hear your thoughts?