Dates And Bills

This conversation has been ongoing for days somewhere on instagram and am pretty fascinated. Males and females have been on each other's throat. 

The men first started calling Nigerian women out for always wanting and taking from men and never contributing to dates. They have on many occasions called Nigerian women desperate, gluttons and covetous as they only want men to spend on them/pay all their bills, emphasis was laid on dates. They say women never pay on dates. The women also spoke up and defended themselves as some blatantly see nothing wrong with the guy to pay on dates and taking care of their lady's bills while other gave instances where they had taken care of everything and still the men cheated or was violent towards them and still left. They also argued that why will a guy ask to take them out and insist they pay.

I got interested in the date talk because well am single *wink* plus it really fascinating to watch the back and forth and as usual I have opinions.

First maybe it is the economy, but what happened to men who prided themselves in taking care of their lady? Isn't that where you are to show all ur machismo? If I were a guy, I wouldn't ask a lady to pay on a date, I will be too egoistic especially on a first date. Don't get me wrong nothing wrong with a lady volunteering to pay but asking her to? Mmmm...... *side eye *

Second, I agree why invite a lady to go out with you without checking your pocket. And mind you, the type of chick you want to go out with will determine how much you should be willing to spend. If you want the "pepper dem gang" girls, you must be willing to spend high amount of money, you cannot "be falling hand na* lol.

Third, if you feel like it is your culture and you are willing to insist on it, no problem but make sure to let the lady know before the date to avoid embarrassment on both sides. There is nothing a healthy communication cannot solve. Say "this is how I am and what I think about this and that"  and a wise lady (if she shares same sentiments or like you that much) would definitely bring her purse or atm along. Also mind you, the level the lady is at also matters. If she is working class then you two can split the bill but you don't expect a student or NYSC lady to pay abi?

Finally, men all women want to be taken care of. Not our fault, God Created us that way. Yes I know, some lady are a bit unreasonable with their demands, expectations and orders on dates. Some are actually inconsiderate but still we all want that "he can take care of me" feeling. It also breeds respect for the man.

I would not pay on a first date tho but I believe every girlfriend, wife whatever should once in a while take hubby or boyfriend out and pay and not necessarily on any special occasions. Even men too want to feel loved.

She pays for the date and you say "she is proud, who does she think she is?, forming miss independent" then she doesn't pay, you say "she is a user, she is......., etc. Men please choose a side, taking to heart the pros and cons.

Please  leave a comment, men would you ever ask a lady to pay on a first date? Ladies would you and have you ever paid on the first date? And how did the relationship go?